Responding, Preventing, Monitoring, Mentoring & Modeling

Responding to your child in a appropriate manner.

What this means is to get to know your child. When an issue arises, think before you act. Explain your reasoning on why you made the decision you made especially considering past experiences.

Preventing risky behavior or problems before they arise.

The setting stone for monitoring, mentoring & modeling for your child. Being able to already have fail safes in place for your child when a problem arises & if the problem still arises, not to allow the problem to explode in your face to the point that you need to ask for help.

***This goes in hand with responding to your child, being reasonable with your decisions.***

Monitoring your child's contact with his/her surrounding world.

This goes hand in hand with knowing your child personally. While knowing your child personally, it also helps out to allow them to be open, having the parent about expressing their feelings. It can be hard for children to do this themselves. Knowing your child personally allows you to be part of their life in a good way which includes, their interests, social circle or even pet peeves.

Mentoring your child to support & encourage desired behaviors.

Being a mentor goes in hand with being a teacher, just being real. That is what children want is for us to be real & up front with them. For them to be included in the situation, in life, is what really helps for them to grow. Even in your own life, giving examples such as about yourself really helps them to really understand you & for them to understand themselves. & when they really truly start to build themselves, let them spread their wings. What I mean by that, let them actually grow with their own interests with quirks as they will already have some of yours, they are your spawn after all. On the same note though, don't force things unto them either, them becoming comfortable in itself takes patience with anything!

Modeling your own behavior to provide a consistent, positive example for your child.

This right here is where we really shine for our children, where we become the hero. Even if none of us can admit that, we are the hero in their lives by simply just being there & providing for them. Starting off, again that consistency is a must! This includes doing in action what you said you were gonna do such as being there in events, taking time to play together. While there is more than just you as a role model, pinpoint what your ideas are of their other role models in life, allow them to begin to distinguish the right & wrong from it.

Parenting is a career in itself, This is something where we all should be extending our hand out for help when we actually need it! I know it can be hard especially in my perspective because I hate to ask for help but sometimes someone else's window will help us even to the point of lending us a place to stay!